Already Ending.. Sunday, Dec 2 2007

This class has opened up my eyes to new perspectives and ideas about things that I have never really thought about before. I found many subjects almost liberating to discuss because its about time that I express my feelings about being a woman and the BEAUTY and DOWNFALLS that come with it. I loved reading other peoples points of view on the discussion board and being able to either agree or disagree and really devour the topic of the week. There are many perspectives out there that people have that I had not ever taken into account before this class. I think using the blog was probably the best idea ever because I tend to be one of those people that can free write on a subject much better than I can discuss key points and concepts. I like being able to explore the subject to its entirety myself and establish exactly my stance and how I feel personally about something. I think the blog is a way to really get the students to get ahold of what they feel passionate about and get involved in it.  In most experiences I have had….we do not ever have this opportunity, so it give major props to keeping a blog!!!!

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Reading 96 Sunday, Nov 25 2007

“Pro life” is an intense subject that captures the opinions of many people on a daily basis. There are people that think that women should have the right to choose and then there are people that think abortion is murder and it should not be tolerated. I personally agree that abortions should not be allowed but in extreme cases where the mothers life is in danger and without aborting the kid both mother and child would die. I think that women who have no problem being sexually active and sleeping around should not plan to kill their child if they do get pregnant. I think that so many girls think that its okay to be sexually active but do not understand the risks and circumstances that can arise when they choose to do so. I stand the biblical standpoint and I believe that whether a child is a fetus or embryo that is murder when you choose to abort. I think that there are so many loving families out there who wish to adopt and have children because they cannot and killing a child because someone is too selfish to take care of it or the process of being pregnant is the most pitiful excuse to have.
Therefore, if you dont want a child…. then dont have sex. Because it affects way more than one life when someone walks into that abortion clinic to get rid of the baby that is growing inside them…and that is a human life you kill.

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Welfare and Laws.. Monday, Nov 19 2007

In the government of the United States we are still facing many issues around the aspect of discrimination and the laws that still allow this to happen. We also have women and men alike that figure out ways to abuse the system and get around paying for things by getting onto welfare and living off of tax payers and the government. I find it absolutely absurd that women think by having multiple babies that they cannot afford that they will just get more money and be able to make it work for their family. Some people have such a screwed up way of thinking that they do not care about the type of person they are or the role model they are depicted as by their children. You see it on TV and it the news everyday…people getting busted and in trouble for trying to fit between the loopholes in the system and squeeze by living in all the wrong ways. It also amazes me that there are still so many laws that are discriminate towards women out there and probably will continue to be there regardless of the measures we take to change the political system. Sometimes it is easy to pick up the newspaper and flip through the television channels and take a look at the root problem in our world….and I think that only the beginning of it lies right within the hands of the lawmakers…. because our government in many ways is still pretty corrupt. I guess thats what people men when they say that the government only makes our problems get deeper and deeper. We allow some things to slide and we make exceptions here and there for certain people in certain situations, but when it comes down to it…….. we often never stick to our guns and do the right thing.

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A revealing revelation Monday, Nov 12 2007

Pornography, Terrorism, and abuse are so widespread that they have all become major issues that need to be dealt with. I have heard of women who divorce their husbands over their addiction to porn and how badly it affects their marriages. I have seen terrorism mishape our country in extreme ways and I have also seen and heard many stories about emotional and physical abuse and the impact it leaves on women and men alike. The people that do not mind porn and who read and watch it themselves are seeking fulfillment and pleasure in all the wrong ways. It disgusts me to think that men can tear open a magazine and become hornballs from hell as they look at nude women they dont even know and fantasize erotic things and conjour up sex scenes in their heads. I think porn is a horrible thing and the fact that so many people are into it and the popups are displayed on my computer each time I get online is absolutely absurd. Everywhere you go you see male clubs, strip bars, porn on tv, and adult video stores to please those that indulge in the ill-beauty of porn. I find it completely appauling myself and I will have a major problem with my husband if he ever tries to find entertainment in that type of nasty stuff. It ruins the innocence of the mind and has no positive affects whatsoever!!
For those men out there that cannot find anything better to do than to sit around and pay to be subscribed to every porn channel available obviously have terribly mixed up priorities or an absolutely pitiful way of life. Cheers to you……

I’m on the other side of the fence.

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TV TV TV… Monday, Nov 5 2007

Desperate Housewives debate is an intense one to follow. It is hard to decide exactly where to stand when you can see the points of both opinions and understand that TV is just about entertainment for the most part and should not be taken too seriously. But then it draws me to another point. TV is probably the most influential thing overall and provokes thought and ideas to people after watching certain things. Just like the “SAW” movies that have come out and is basically about torturing humans and all the insane ways to go about hurting people. These types of movies influence serial killers and bad people to commit these types of awful crimes and I can bet my life on the fact that one day the events in those movies are going to be committed in real life because of the ideas that were implanted to their heads. Therefore, It is hard to know where to draw the line in TV and what to take seriously and what not to.
With Desperate Housewives it is a cute show but does have plenty of fall backs. The negative stereotypes placed on women do affect us in a huge way and I think it is important to point out that most women do not lead lives like that anyway. I think that when people take the show as offensive it is probably because it does not show the lives of hardworking women and the measures they have to take in order to pay bills and be successful at parenting and their other callings as well. It grabs the indentity of very few women and exposes the catty problems they face. This is not a good way to represent the females because of the inaccuracy it entails.

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Men Men Men Sunday, Oct 28 2007

I remember when I was little I used to think that men could only be firefighters, police officers, and dog catchers. I remember always asking my parents why all my teachers were girls and my mom would say it was because women taught better than men but men built the school so we could have a place to learn….therefore we had to appreciate both sides to the story! Oooo how times have changed… Now I see that as jobs have allowed gender to mix them together a little bit the more successful things can be. I mean, we even have a woman running for president this next time around! Who would have ever thought that time would come?? Most men will give her the credit that she is entitled even though it is still hard to accept a female may dominate the next term. That is a HUGE step for our country…

Everyday women face challenges not just in the home, but at work simply because of gender and the inability for role reversal to occur. Either way, I am impressed with the way that time has changed things. It gives me a lot of hope that in the future women will be seen as more of an equal and perservere to stand right beside those men that are trying to keep us down.

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Take time to realize.. Sunday, Oct 14 2007

The perfect mother. What does it take? What does the perfect mother look like? What does she act like? What does she do that makes her so perfect?
I think it took me awhile to realize… perfection is not as simple as it seems. Being a mother, you see yourself reflected in you’re childs eyes. You hold your breath, you reclaim your prayers, and you beg that you’re child is going to feel loved and master life the first time around. Being a mother, you try to save you’re child from everything bad, you try to keep them from pain, you try to teach them all the right things so they dont make the mistakes you once made. Being a mother, you don’t want to see tears streak their face and you give your entire life to fulfilling each and every wish they desire.
Often times, Mothers tend to lose sight of themselves while trying to live the lives of their child with them. Mothers continue through life as the hours fade and the days seem to pass by continuously….struggling to catch their own dreams while guiding and walking their child through life.
I think that mothers are so afraid of letting go too soon, so instead they just never do. No mother expects their child to fall off onto to the wrong path or get into all the wrong things– and when it does happen a mother falls off in the silence of their own sin as they blame themselves for not protecting their child a little bit better. It is a constant struggle. It is a job you cannot quit. It is the one thing that doesn’t ever go away and I have never seen a call of duty that stretches beyond the work of a mother…… Thank you MOM.

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Women & Health.. Sunday, Oct 7 2007

It is nice to know that many women have had terrible experiences with the doctors who are supposed to take care of them. It is nice to be given a heads up on the fact that there are a handful of doctors practicing that should not be simply because they do not know how to treat women and give the proper advice and care out to them. But it is not so nice to know that the majority of the women who have experienced these problems have not done a thing about getting it fixed. Women cannot complain about being mistreated or not taken seriously by their doctor but then not go to any measure to get it fixed. Way to let the women after you fall victim to the same thing.
This is why there are so many problems with healthcare in the first place… and this is the same reason that doctors have lost their licenses before too. If this is such a common problem (even though I have not personally had this occur..yet) then why is no one stepping up to the plate and getting those doctors face to face with the medical board?
As women we have to be concerned and PROACTIVE about our healthcare. If we are not… nothing will ever change. Women can complain until the end of time about these issues but what good is that doing to alert the women who are only a few steps behind you in getting the same type of experience?
TAKE THE INITIATIVE OR DON’T COMPLAIN…. because those that do will be the only ones to see results.

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Labiaplasty… Monday, Oct 1 2007

What an interesting topic for the week! Surgically altered and enhanced vaginas, labias, and hymens is certainly something that makes its clear to you how far some women will go to beautify themselves in the most extreme measures.
You know, I like to wear makeup, I like to have cute new clothes and go shopping because It does make me feel even better about myself when I prance around in a new outfit or dress that I think flatters my figure…. but I have never felt the need to beautify my body parts in ways like that! I suppose that some people get so caught up in perfection and the flawless figure that they feel like they have to change those minor imperfect qualities because they had no control over it to begin with. Considering some people are born with a more manly vagina due to chromosomal defects and other factors- I think that it may be more acceptable to have things like that surgically fixed, but not for the sake of beauty alone!
I had never even really heard of such a procedure but I guess these days nothing surprises me! I really pray that one day those women that are so lost and determined to go to such extremes to feel wanted and loved will get a glimpse to the other side of things and realize how many more important things accompany us in life besides our outer image.
It just is absolutely shocking to me that even in China, I mean women all over the world do these types of surgeries just to fit the picture of the “ideal beautiful woman” they long to be.

Sometimes you wonder what goes on in the mind of a woman that makes them feel that beauty is only skin deep……

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Precious Heartbreak Sunday, Sep 23 2007

All the discussions this week about love, power, and sexuality gave me a good chance to reflect on my past and the relationships I had held close to my heart. I asked myself why I got so many different jumbled feelings about love and how I see those emotions in my own eyes and It didnt take me long to answer my own question.
On March 26, 2oo6 I lost a man that I truly loved because he was hit and killed by a drunk driver… my world had never came crashing down so fast as it did when I answered his mothers phone call early that morning. A relationship of almost two years, someone who was my absolute best friend was just gone before I could even take in the news or get the chance to say a final goodbye. The reason this reminds me of our postings is because we are talking about power and how society influences love. When I think about what in this world influenced me to love Cody I remembered that when we first started dating people warned me about him….saying that he would never change. I remember my own brothers telling me that Cody was too much of a partier, too involved in all the wrong things, and too much for me to handle. Of course I was young and curious…and I did the opposite of all those worldly voices, and you know what happened to me? My entire life changed. Cody changed. I was on top of the world in love and It was the most amazing experience– I had truly been blessed. I was constantly wondering why God let me have someone so special. What if I had never taken that chance? What if I had listened to the rest of the world and missed out on his love….on his life?

I thought I had love set aside perfectly in my life. My friends always told me how much Cody loved me and how he never failed at treating me like a princess….his princess. For the days and even months after his death I recall it being mostly a fog, but I remember taking so many late night drives as tears ran down my face just begging and reasoning with God and wondering how I am going to pick up the pieces and begin again. Honestly, It took almost 6 months before I could wake up and say to myself….”Kalie, your going to be alright.” To this day, though its only been a year and a half– I am more afraid of the memories I have of Cody and I fading than I am to never get the chance to find a love like that again.
There is a place in my heart where only the deepest of love can penetrate…. and it didnt take long for Cody to hit that place. We were complete opposites, and this is how the judgements of society can affect relationships. I was the church going, innocent, sweet, and naive girl who was connected with that “dangerous boy” with whom our love would never last. Little did the world know we would take our love to his grave, even though it still resides so strong inside of me.
I remember how I was called up to speak at the funeral and as I looked up and faced the pews I saw all those faces that told me to stay away from Cody. I saw all those friends we cherished and went to hang out with on the weekends. I saw tears streaming the faces of his family, my family, and others as I spoke of how Cody was saved while we were together on Thanksgiving night as well as recapturing the times we had together as really started falling…. falling in love.

I’ll never forget watching the dirt covering his grave, or the moment I put the last white rose in his casket as they closed it for the final time. I’ll never forget the voices of people whispering about how I was the girl that changed his life. But you know what? I was just that girl that gave him a chance…. a chance to take off the mask he had covering him up, and when I loved him… I saved him.

I can only imagine how many people have missed out on the chance to be loved only because they have been so caught up in the opinions of others or what the world would think of them. Why…. why do we let all the wrong things influence us into missing out on life’s best offers?

Love is a chance. Love is power. But more importantly…. Love always wins.

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